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Cup with hot tea near computerBy Fran Mysti Hafey

Sometimes there are situations that require no words. A look, a knowing, an understanding between two beings or when a soul recognizes another soul.  When a smile and a hug show our happiness. Or perhaps when someone’s grief is so deep there are no words to comfort; just being there can be enough, a silent, loving energy that surrounds them with love and healing.

Words can be healing or hurtful. They can help or destroy. Choosing our words carefully can make a big difference.

One of the things I did to help myself heal is writing. I was never very good at journaling or writing in a diary every day, but about twenty years ago I began writing more seriously. I wrote poetry and short stories when I was younger; it helped me deal with some tough situations. But much later, I needed to write and share my stories to help others. I dedicated more time to writing and it felt good. It helped me to remember memories, good and bad, as they came to the surface. I always ended each story with a positive note that felt good. Suddenly, I had people sending me emails and leaving comments at my website and groups, telling me how my stories helped them. It felt good to know my sharing was helping others and also helping me to heal inside too!

I’ve been upset for a while that I haven’t been writing every day or even every month! When I came to my blog to make some updates, I noticed I hadn’t posted here in a year! I was shocked and sad too. I feel so much in me that wants to come out onto paper or online! I take notes or jot down ideas I have so I can come back to them later. Then something else comes up or I’m in pain, need to rest or just plain busy! I desire to write more again, so this post is my promise to myself and to others, that I will write more! I hope to write at least once a month! It’s important for me to write, it is part of me and what I am here to do, and, it’s healing.

Love, light, joy and blessings,

Fran~

P.S. Just to let you know, I typed this whole page while wearing a thumb and wrist brace on! It took me forever, but I wanted to post it before midnight, Eastern time, so it would be posted in January! I then remembered, it’s also the Full BLUE Moon and a Total Lunar Eclipse!! What a great time to reaffirm to myself to write and heal more! (((Very Big Smile!!)))

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Okay, so I know I missed posting anything for the holidays or in January, but I can remember sitting here and telling myself I just needed to do nothing or as little as possible. For me, when I say that, usually what happens is all sorts of things start popping up to be done, but this time, thank heavens, life slowed down. I really needed that, especially since the few months before, I got hit pretty hard with all sorts of things that kept me busy, and they were not of my choosing! Oh you know, like a tooth acting up, an old crown actually, that decided it was time to come off and need more work than before. Doctors appointments and unexpected things that come up we have to take care of. Once the holidays were over, I decided to take things much slower; my choice.

I feel taking a mini sabbatical has been good. I’ve been able to stay up late, sleep later, go through “stuff” at home and organize. We’ve had people come in and do some small home repairs, which always feels good, and getting rid of old mail, clutter, reviving the energy throughout our home! I still have days when I don’t do much, sitting and just resting, due to Fibromyalgia, Arthritis and other overlapping health issues. Regardless, I always try to do something, even if it’s getting dressed, washing a load of clothes and feeding the dogs! I don’t really like how everything on television and online in January is about losing weight, getting healthier, exercise equipment, blah, blah, blah, so I ignore it usually, but, it does remind me, just as I change the calendar, to make changes I may have gotten sluggish about during Fall and the Holidays. Winter is thickly upon us in Virginia in January and February which has slowed me down even more this year with my left knee, ankle, shoulder and neck giving me so much pain and stiffness. My doctors are not in agreement with what to do about my knees, so I am doing the best I can, meditating and doing what I can to heal, my own way!

Here it is February already and with snow, comes my Birthday. I had a nice Birthday weekend, because my day landed on Friday the 13th! I’m not superstitious, so it’s all good. My husband, son and a friend of his cooked for me and we enjoyed good food, good wine, good conversation and laughed a lot! It was a nice Birthday and I feel very blessed. I usually don’t even leave home anymore to celebrate due to Valentine’s day or icy, snowy weather. I was happy I ventured out on a sub-zero temperature night to be with family and friends. I noticed the stars shining so bright when we walked out to leave and saw several constellations vividly. The thought that went through my mind was, “My blessings are equal to the stars in the sky tonight!”

Thank you for being here with me. I look forward to your comments and meeting you. May this year be filled with even more positive energy, blessings, love and light.

Love, peace and joy, Mysti-Fran~

*The Story of why I sign Mysti-Fran or Fran-Mysti or sometimes Mystiblu:* I’ve been on the internet for a long time. Back then, people were urged to use an “alias” so people wouldn’t know who they were. I chose the name, “Mistyblue,” for the love of my Samoyed dog that looked like a white wolf! As I learned and found my path, I was Spiritually advised to change my name online and in my ventures to “Mystiblu,” which has even more meaning for me, my work and path.

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.* Thank you.
If my messages are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too at https://mystiblu.wordpress.com/  or http://Mystickblue.com or at Facebook or Twitter. If you share this message, please keep my copyright with it or share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.
Copyright © Mystickblue LoveNotes~A Moment with Mysti~SoulConnections-Fran Hafey-Mystiblu~2015-All Rights Reserved.

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December 21-28~ Winter Solstice &  The New Year~

I can hardly believe it’s already December, (and this post took me seven days to write) much less Winter Solstice! Christmas is in a few days and although most of the important things are finished, I can feel myself wanting more sleep and time alone to think and just be myself.

I did not write here in August or November, and I beat myself up a little, telling myself I should have made time. Honestly, the last few months, I have had to pick and choose what’s more important; my health, pleasing others, spending time online, or being with my family and getting quality rest! My health has been a constant issue in 2014.

My health has actually kept me from doing so many things during the year that would have been fun, interesting, exciting and educational. I have been working very hard to get healthier; going to physical therapy, water therapy, being diligent and on time to many doctor’s appointments, handling the health things that have popped up and demanded my attention even when I thought I couldn’t do anymore, walk another step, see another doctor; I persevered. We are much stronger than we think we are!

When I hear people saying they hope 2015 will be better than 2014, I think to myself, how can I create a better year than the last? When I have quiet time, I think a lot. I have a gift, or perhaps some would call it a curse. I see visions in my head when I think or remember. In color pictures, vivid, and sometimes like seeing a movie. I also have visions of things to come, I call them glimpses, and hints of things I need to pay attention to. With so much happening around me and inside of me, I have missed some things, but happily, I’m often given another chance!

One thing I could not have had another chance at, was the passing of my Dad this year, in August. I knew in my heart it would be soon, but I did not know how soon or how fast this would happen. I feel very blessed to have had time to make my peace with him years ago and let go of past hurts and issues. He made a point to say, I’m sorry, some of what you’re going through is my fault and I love you. I was able to say I love you easier, as he got older, whether he said it back or not, it did not matter, because I knew he loved me. Sometimes we think “words” will make us feel better, but they are not always necessary when others are not good at sharing them or when feelings are shared instead of spoken. I am so grateful I was with him when he took his last breath on this earth. He was not able to speak; he wouldn’t have needed to because we all felt so much love and I know he felt it too.

What is really important to you? Have you learned to let go of things that don’t matter or things you can do without or that really are not important anymore? Have you forgiven others and forgiven yourself? As I’ve gotten older, I can see things in my life that no one else really cared about but me, and that I really can do things differently and simplify. There is a time to do more because we want to help others and go that extra mile. Then there are times to allow others to do things; maybe things we used to do and we can now pass the torch or delegate to let someone else learn, so we can do less. I have learned so much in 2014, so many lessons, and I made a giant leap of growth and listening to my inner self rather than everyone else. The world needs more compassion, love, understanding, caring, peace, kindness and light. Be the light to someone when they need it, but learn to do what feels good to your soul and what you know is right. Pay attention to your gut/inner feelings and go with them. Don’t be in a hurry, be still and allow information to come to you instead of jumping too fast and making a mistake. The world is in a hurry. Everyone wants to move fast and get things done, but it can be done with peace and wisdom and not in a hurried rush, causing anxiety and stress. Take time to let life flow like a river and find peace and beauty in everything.

Yes, this has been a very full year. I’ve learned more than I ever could have imagined. I’ve dealt with pain in my body and in my heart, but I never gave up; I kept moving forward. I’ve learned even more about being kind and knowing when to be tough, with love, and to allow doors to open and close and not get upset because I didn’t jump when others thought I should. I am closer to my soul than ever before, as in, knowing even more who I am and what I’m here to do. I may not get things done in everyone else’s timing, but that’s ok, I’m still getting things done and that’s what truly matters.

I wish you peace, prosperity and love for the New Year! Be true to your own heart and create lots of wonderful moments in 2015!!

Peace, joy and light, Fran Mystiblu Hafey~

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.*

If my messages are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too at “A Moment with Mysti” at https://mystiblu.wordpress.com/ If you share this message, please keep my copyright with it or share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.

Copyright©Mystickblue~A Moment with Mysti~Fran Hafey~Mystiblu~2014-All Rights Reserved.

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Healers, energy workers, and those that work with others to help them heal from physical, emotional or spiritual traumas, illness and pain, often are ones that deal with much pain or illness themselves. In spiritual and metaphysical circles, many believe when one is ill, there is a deeper meaning or reason for it. Others believe we bring illness on ourselves because we take on other people’s pain, suffering and are not shielding ourselves well from negative energy that, in time can cause illness. Illness could be something manifesting due to not letting go or not having enough support from family and friends, or even issues from past lives. I’ve noticed some people see being ill or dealing with daily pain as a weakness, but I believe the opposite; seeing pain as a powerful teacher and lessons; something the strongest are able to handle. Perhaps they became strong because of pain. Interesting how that works.

How can a healer help others if they do not understand or have not experienced similar pain themselves? I may be able to help someone by having empathy or sympathy, and of course we all have lived different lives, traveling different paths and it can take a long time to experience everything, but I often tell people, “I can help you, although I may not have experienced what you have, I can help you with my intuitive abilities and empathically tuning into what you are experiencing.”

I spend much of my time around Vietnam Veterans, because my husband is one, and I tell them, “I have not experienced War and the suffering you have experienced; even though, I can help you, but I cannot relate to what it is like to be in a War.” That does not mean I cannot listen and help them. I can help remove the pain of the memories with them and help lessen the pain, but only they can heal it completely, with SpiritGod’s help. I am a guide, a loving hand, heart, ears and soul, there to help them along the way.

I experience a lot of pain myself and have at times turned to doctors to help me. I try not to take medications, but sometimes I need to. I try to use natural remedies as much as possible because my body is sensitive to chemicals. I do know all medicine is derived from base plants; it’s what’s added later that causes medications to affect people in a negative way. I also practice Reiki on myself. I cleanse my chakras and my energy often, especially if I have been around negative people or places. I use crystals and stones to help heal and do energy work. I pray for healing and for the strength to do what I need to do, regardless of pain. I meditate, listening for guidance and pay attention to the energy around me.  I have the right to tell doctor’s no if I feel something is not right for me. I can be mindful of changes and shifts within me and around me. My intentions are always positive.

Most would choose not to have any pain, but how would we understand pain if we have not experienced it? I would choose not to have it all the time or as often, but again, I know what I am here to do and who I am and that helps me to understand my pain. That doesn’t mean I love pain or want it, but I do understand it more and it has taught me many lessons. Just like the pain women have to bring our children into the world, it is soon forgotten because of love.

I do not claim to heal pain, I help others heal their pain and with loving energy I can help pain. I believe in miracles and I do accept some things just are and I do my best and keep moving forward. That’s what I help others do too, heal, grow and never give up!

*This article is the opinion and thoughts of one Author, not to be confused with medical advice.*

“A Season of Love, Stories to Help Heal, Grow and Find Peace Within.” by Fran Hafey

Copyright © Mystickblue-Fran Hafey2013-All Rights Reserved.

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Hello everyone,

My book,  “A Season of Love, Stories that Help Heal, Grow and Find Peace Within,” is finished and I now have a page for it all its own. On this page, you can read the write up on the book from the Publisher, check my Author Bio, read the forward, some stories in the book and purchase the book in a few different places and ways.  You can also get your “signed” copy sent from me with a free book marker included, but sent with my blessings and good positive energy that you will enjoy the book, receive something good from it and be blessed beyond measure. I hope you will then share what you feel about the book with others or even share the book. (smile) My main incentive is for people to enjoy the book and read the messages and thoughts for each day. I pray they will feel the love, peace and positive energy in the book. Of course I want to sell some books, but the most important thing to me is that what I share will be received and honored as a gift from within.

“A Season of Love,” has been a dream and I was finally able to achieve it! I began writing the stories and articles in the book years ago. I would write them for different places, such as my website, newsletter, my spiritual groups I have at yahoo and other places. They were free so people would enjoy the messages I had to share.  After years of writing, many people said I should put them all into a book. The idea was appealing and I began to think about it.  I enjoyed writing so much and writing had helped heal my soul. I am on a spiritual path, but awakening years ago to the changes I needed to make in my life, writing allowed me to get my experiences out, to share with others. The messages in each story were sometimes Divinely given to me. I would be washing dishes, working in my garden or meditating and suddenly the idea for the next story would come to me. I would take down notes or run to my computer and start putting it down in words. It would flow so well, I was often unaware of what I was really typing, but somehow I become one with the energy in the words being created on the page. Afterwards, I would read what I had typed and was amazed how it all came together. I would check the typos or change how a sentence was structured, but for the most part it all came together as it flowed so well.

I began researching Publishers and how to go about getting the writings and stories into a book. I wanted to learn the next phase of this dream. I asked others that had published, but didn’t get much help. It seemed as if they all felt I should know this, I could find the information myself or they were all too busy. I just wanted to hear others experiences with their book publishing and how to get started in a huge world on the internet of different ways to publish and different companies out there. I wanted my book to look good, feel good and not cost me a small fortune. I began finding out about self publishing and printing on demand, but I was unsure of what to do.

I remember looking, asking questions, joining writers groups and nothing seemed to click. Maybe it just wasn’t the right time. That’s what I would tell myself and believed that one day it would all fall into place. Also, I had the money a couple of times, but each time, something would happen and there was an emergency and the money would have to be used.

I began experiencing pain in my left arm and ended up going through a long ordeal of shots, physical therapy, pain, lack of sleep and losing control of my body. This “streak” lasted five years! I was in and out of the hospital for one thing or another, was put through test after test, you name it, x-rays, sonograms or ultrasounds, stress tests, cat scans, lab tests and MRI’s. The more pain I was in, the worse I became, the more muscle mass I lost and then more pain. A vicious cycle. I fell several times and had a concussion and back fracture. Each time I thought I was beginning to get better, something else would happen. During all of this, I kept holding onto my dream of one day getting my book out there to the world. I somehow continued most of the things I was doing online and barely told people what was going on with my health. I became embarrassed to tell anyone or ask for healing and prayers when things kept happening, one after another. I held on, even as my mind, body and spirit were surely being tested in all ways. I was learning about patience, loving myself, creating, manifesting, being still and mindful of everything in my life, being grateful and so much more. There’s nothing that will teach you valuable lessons and perhaps faster, then when you have something and then one day you don’t have it anymore, especially your health.

I was many days, unable to shower, pick anything up, move, sleep, brush my hair and teeth, get dressed or go to the bathroom by myself. It caused so much pain I would cry out. Doctors gave me pills and more pills. I had to use oxygen at home and go to physical therapy. I became very aware of the really important people in my life and I was grateful for them. We learn to let go of ego and pride when we truly need someone else’s help. 

So my friends, “A Season of Love,”  was partly written before all that happened, but some of it wasn’t. Some was born out of true life experiences and learning, never giving up and staying strong on my path, even when I couldn’t see another step in front of me, I learned to have more faith. I learned about being very grateful for this moment. The one I’m having right now. Breathing, blinking, typing, sitting, moving my right leg up and down and sharing this message with you. 

I hope you will acquire your own copy of my book or get it in ebook format for your eReader. On my book page, there is a link to get a free eReader for your computer or phone. Please do take a moment to visit and read more information about, “A Season of Love,  and enjoy the music and links I’ve shared there. I hope you will feel compelled to read it and I pray you enjoy it.

Thank you to many for your support over the years. Support in love, good energy, little pushes to get the book finished and to never, ever give up! Keep your dream a live and set your mind and heart to accomplishing what you’ve been called to do and what your soul is urging you to do.

Here is the link to the book page… http://Mystickblue.com/ASeasonofLove.html

~Peace~ Mysti-Fran~

The video here is by “Lonestar,” called, “Mountains.” I’m not really into country music, but I like some of it and this song, well, you just have to listen to the words and know why I fell in love with it. I hope you enjoy it.~

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