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What I Learned from Clutter

Ray Through Lush Forest PlantsBy Fran Hafey/Mysti

I am shocked how much we had accumulated over the years. Together thirty-five years, moved numerous times and some of our children have come back to live with us, bringing and leaving some of their own “stuff.” We were running out of room! Bad health and other unforeseen circumstances had helped with the overabundance of clutter in our home! I know now, clutter and health issues can be an ongoing cycle and we can break it! For years I had shuffled boxes from one area of our home to another or even storage facilities, sheds, pods, basements and attics, because we just didn’t have the room in our small, oddly built home with no closets. Just as I got rid of some, more would show up, one way or another. I began packing up my personal collections and special sentimental belongings hoping we would move, one day.

I long for the day when I can display more things I love, that represent who I am or what I am compassionate about. We had decided to move after being here for fifteen years. In order to sell, we needed to make some repairs. By the time we got an estimate on the repairs, it was disheartening so we decided to stay and do what we could. We had a screened porch added where the deck had been, a new deck and took out a wall to put in new windows, doors and a big closet. We put in new windows in the sunroom and had a new heating and cooling system put in. Things did get better, but then a couple of years later I knew I needed more space and more organization. I had to take joy in the small things and the changes in our home had helped, but I found myself right back in the clutter a few years after my Dad passed away. For the first couple of years, Mom got rid of a few things. Then she decided it was time to sell the homestead out in the country that had been our home for fifty-five years! It was the only home I had ever known as a kid. I felt very blessed to have lived there and call it home.

Mom wanted to sell and move, and it all needed to happen pretty fast. Not because she was ninety years old, but because she had found the perfect “new” home in town a few miles away. Once that happened, she wanted to go and fast! First came the yard sales and her giving things away. Then came cleaning out the basement, attic, barns and more! Then there was more giving away, the second round. My four siblings and I took many carloads and truckloads of stuff home! I wasn’t too shocked, after all, they’d been there for over fifty years! We had to laugh at some of the odd things we brought home, as we cried, saying good-bye to a place we loved; such bittersweet memories.

Time flew and Mom put a contract on her new home and the old place sold fairly fast. We were so happy for Mom, and the new place is perfect. I smile as I remember her saying, “Well now I have to live to be One Hundred, because I love my new place so much!” That’s when I knew she had peace with my Dad passing, letting go of so many things she didn’t really want to get rid of, moving to a new home and now, living her life.

As for  me and my clutter? Well, I brought home tons of stuff from my Mom’s old place and I’ve sat going through it and deciding what to do with it all. So many memories in those boxes and storage containers. I decided I was going to make room for some of them, where I can see them every day. I’ve tossed out, given away and sold some of my stuff just to make room to see the things that really matter to me and I’ve learned some valuable lessons about clutter. We really don’t need so much all around us to be happy, but as humans some of us tend to save stuff and tuck little things away that are special. We like to collect. Now and then, we just need to go through things and sort them out, making sure to keep just the really special ones and pass them on to those that will love them as we have. Oh, I don’t need tons of clothes or too many books. I’m giving away some clothes, coffee mugs and dishes next week, we have too many. But, I can never have too many memories and things around me that make me smile and remember how blessed I am. I just have to remember this life is not forever and we can cherish something and value it for the love that’s in it, but we cannot take it with us. I’ve witnessed my Dad dying, my Mom letting go of him in the flesh, her letting go of the stuff that had so many love memories in them and keeping just what she needed to feel that love all around her. She also has some great kids, Grandkids and GreatGrandkids to love and remind her every day.

I am so grateful for all the lessons clutter has taught me and watching how to get rid of clutter once and for all. Clutter can also be cluttered thoughts and holding onto too much clutter in our minds and hearts. I didn’t say I’ve gotten rid of all of my clutter, yet, but it’s a work in progress. Part of the clutter is my business, which I run from home, but I believe our new home, the one day new home we are working towards, will have everything I need for my home and business!

I work at getting more organized often and I always take time to remind myself, “We have enough, we have all we need and as I get rid of clutter, the positive energy can flow more freely, bringing me and my family all we need.” If I hang onto everything, if I live in a mindset of lack, then other better and greater things cannot flow to me. I remind myself of this often and feel good when I let go of things that are no longer needed or serving me.

Blessings and love,

Fran~Mysti

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December 21-28~ Winter Solstice &  The New Year~

I can hardly believe it’s already December, (and this post took me seven days to write) much less Winter Solstice! Christmas is in a few days and although most of the important things are finished, I can feel myself wanting more sleep and time alone to think and just be myself.

I did not write here in August or November, and I beat myself up a little, telling myself I should have made time. Honestly, the last few months, I have had to pick and choose what’s more important; my health, pleasing others, spending time online, or being with my family and getting quality rest! My health has been a constant issue in 2014.

My health has actually kept me from doing so many things during the year that would have been fun, interesting, exciting and educational. I have been working very hard to get healthier; going to physical therapy, water therapy, being diligent and on time to many doctor’s appointments, handling the health things that have popped up and demanded my attention even when I thought I couldn’t do anymore, walk another step, see another doctor; I persevered. We are much stronger than we think we are!

When I hear people saying they hope 2015 will be better than 2014, I think to myself, how can I create a better year than the last? When I have quiet time, I think a lot. I have a gift, or perhaps some would call it a curse. I see visions in my head when I think or remember. In color pictures, vivid, and sometimes like seeing a movie. I also have visions of things to come, I call them glimpses, and hints of things I need to pay attention to. With so much happening around me and inside of me, I have missed some things, but happily, I’m often given another chance!

One thing I could not have had another chance at, was the passing of my Dad this year, in August. I knew in my heart it would be soon, but I did not know how soon or how fast this would happen. I feel very blessed to have had time to make my peace with him years ago and let go of past hurts and issues. He made a point to say, I’m sorry, some of what you’re going through is my fault and I love you. I was able to say I love you easier, as he got older, whether he said it back or not, it did not matter, because I knew he loved me. Sometimes we think “words” will make us feel better, but they are not always necessary when others are not good at sharing them or when feelings are shared instead of spoken. I am so grateful I was with him when he took his last breath on this earth. He was not able to speak; he wouldn’t have needed to because we all felt so much love and I know he felt it too.

What is really important to you? Have you learned to let go of things that don’t matter or things you can do without or that really are not important anymore? Have you forgiven others and forgiven yourself? As I’ve gotten older, I can see things in my life that no one else really cared about but me, and that I really can do things differently and simplify. There is a time to do more because we want to help others and go that extra mile. Then there are times to allow others to do things; maybe things we used to do and we can now pass the torch or delegate to let someone else learn, so we can do less. I have learned so much in 2014, so many lessons, and I made a giant leap of growth and listening to my inner self rather than everyone else. The world needs more compassion, love, understanding, caring, peace, kindness and light. Be the light to someone when they need it, but learn to do what feels good to your soul and what you know is right. Pay attention to your gut/inner feelings and go with them. Don’t be in a hurry, be still and allow information to come to you instead of jumping too fast and making a mistake. The world is in a hurry. Everyone wants to move fast and get things done, but it can be done with peace and wisdom and not in a hurried rush, causing anxiety and stress. Take time to let life flow like a river and find peace and beauty in everything.

Yes, this has been a very full year. I’ve learned more than I ever could have imagined. I’ve dealt with pain in my body and in my heart, but I never gave up; I kept moving forward. I’ve learned even more about being kind and knowing when to be tough, with love, and to allow doors to open and close and not get upset because I didn’t jump when others thought I should. I am closer to my soul than ever before, as in, knowing even more who I am and what I’m here to do. I may not get things done in everyone else’s timing, but that’s ok, I’m still getting things done and that’s what truly matters.

I wish you peace, prosperity and love for the New Year! Be true to your own heart and create lots of wonderful moments in 2015!!

Peace, joy and light, Fran Mystiblu Hafey~

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.*

If my messages are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too at “A Moment with Mysti” at https://mystiblu.wordpress.com/ If you share this message, please keep my copyright with it or share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.

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LoveNote for Sunday May 11, 2014~

I am certain, I love myself more now than I have ever before. I am comfortable with who I am as a person, inside and out. I may not be what someone else feels is right, but I am not them, I am me! I have lived through many experiences and problems, big and small and I am stronger and better for each one. I have learned many lessons and I welcome them. My body is not what it used to be, but why should it be? I am older, I am wiser, I know myself and I value everything about me. Some days are better than others, so I take a deep breath and count my blessings. I strive to help others on their journeys, when they have doubts and need to learn to love themselves.

Believe me. This was not something that came easily or fast, but as I shared in my book, “A Season of Love,” “When we experience trials, we should not look back on them or curse them, but do our best to be grateful and have joy for receiving each lesson which makes us stronger. Like a sword being created, the Master folds the heated metal, over and over again, tempering it, making it strong and worthy. We, like the sword, are put through heated times, only to make us stronger!”

Blessings and love, Fran~Mysti~May 2014

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.*
If my messages are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too at https://mystiblu.wordpress.com/If you share this message, please keep my copyright with it or share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.
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A Moment with Mysti~ January 26, 2014

I’m a home-body. I like being home. I tell myself often, that’s ok. Everyone has a purpose and not all of us were meant to travel all over the world with our messages or be in front of huge crowds. Now and then, I wonder why I am the way I am. I don’t single out my imperfections and name them. I take the whole package and know everything is connected. Through pain and joy, I’ve learned so much and I love to learn and welcome it. I also know life isn’t always smooth sailing, we will have ups and downs, but when we’re positive, help others, give unselfishly and be the light we’re here to be, we will find peace. Striving to be love is how we invite love and peace into our lives. 

Today I baked cranberry orange pecan bread while taking pictures of deer just past our backyard fence. I enjoyed spending the day with some of the guys in my life, my husband, son and grandson and of course our dogs and birds. I did some laundry, computer work and hey, the cold temperatures outside don’t bother me as long as I’m home. *smile*

Peace and love, Fran~Mysti

*Opinions and thoughts of this Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.*

If you enjoy my messages and they are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too at http://mystickblue.com/or https://mystiblu.wordpress.com/ If you share, please keep my copyright with it or share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.

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