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What I Learned from Clutter

Ray Through Lush Forest PlantsBy Fran Hafey/Mysti

I am shocked how much we had accumulated over the years. Together thirty-five years, moved numerous times and some of our children have come back to live with us, bringing and leaving some of their own “stuff.” We were running out of room! Bad health and other unforeseen circumstances had helped with the overabundance of clutter in our home! I know now, clutter and health issues can be an ongoing cycle and we can break it! For years I had shuffled boxes from one area of our home to another or even storage facilities, sheds, pods, basements and attics, because we just didn’t have the room in our small, oddly built home with no closets. Just as I got rid of some, more would show up, one way or another. I began packing up my personal collections and special sentimental belongings hoping we would move, one day.

I long for the day when I can display more things I love, that represent who I am or what I am compassionate about. We had decided to move after being here for fifteen years. In order to sell, we needed to make some repairs. By the time we got an estimate on the repairs, it was disheartening so we decided to stay and do what we could. We had a screened porch added where the deck had been, a new deck and took out a wall to put in new windows, doors and a big closet. We put in new windows in the sunroom and had a new heating and cooling system put in. Things did get better, but then a couple of years later I knew I needed more space and more organization. I had to take joy in the small things and the changes in our home had helped, but I found myself right back in the clutter a few years after my Dad passed away. For the first couple of years, Mom got rid of a few things. Then she decided it was time to sell the homestead out in the country that had been our home for fifty-five years! It was the only home I had ever known as a kid. I felt very blessed to have lived there and call it home.

Mom wanted to sell and move, and it all needed to happen pretty fast. Not because she was ninety years old, but because she had found the perfect “new” home in town a few miles away. Once that happened, she wanted to go and fast! First came the yard sales and her giving things away. Then came cleaning out the basement, attic, barns and more! Then there was more giving away, the second round. My four siblings and I took many carloads and truckloads of stuff home! I wasn’t too shocked, after all, they’d been there for over fifty years! We had to laugh at some of the odd things we brought home, as we cried, saying good-bye to a place we loved; such bittersweet memories.

Time flew and Mom put a contract on her new home and the old place sold fairly fast. We were so happy for Mom, and the new place is perfect. I smile as I remember her saying, “Well now I have to live to be One Hundred, because I love my new place so much!” That’s when I knew she had peace with my Dad passing, letting go of so many things she didn’t really want to get rid of, moving to a new home and now, living her life.

As for  me and my clutter? Well, I brought home tons of stuff from my Mom’s old place and I’ve sat going through it and deciding what to do with it all. So many memories in those boxes and storage containers. I decided I was going to make room for some of them, where I can see them every day. I’ve tossed out, given away and sold some of my stuff just to make room to see the things that really matter to me and I’ve learned some valuable lessons about clutter. We really don’t need so much all around us to be happy, but as humans some of us tend to save stuff and tuck little things away that are special. We like to collect. Now and then, we just need to go through things and sort them out, making sure to keep just the really special ones and pass them on to those that will love them as we have. Oh, I don’t need tons of clothes or too many books. I’m giving away some clothes, coffee mugs and dishes next week, we have too many. But, I can never have too many memories and things around me that make me smile and remember how blessed I am. I just have to remember this life is not forever and we can cherish something and value it for the love that’s in it, but we cannot take it with us. I’ve witnessed my Dad dying, my Mom letting go of him in the flesh, her letting go of the stuff that had so many love memories in them and keeping just what she needed to feel that love all around her. She also has some great kids, Grandkids and GreatGrandkids to love and remind her every day.

I am so grateful for all the lessons clutter has taught me and watching how to get rid of clutter once and for all. Clutter can also be cluttered thoughts and holding onto too much clutter in our minds and hearts. I didn’t say I’ve gotten rid of all of my clutter, yet, but it’s a work in progress. Part of the clutter is my business, which I run from home, but I believe our new home, the one day new home we are working towards, will have everything I need for my home and business!

I work at getting more organized often and I always take time to remind myself, “We have enough, we have all we need and as I get rid of clutter, the positive energy can flow more freely, bringing me and my family all we need.” If I hang onto everything, if I live in a mindset of lack, then other better and greater things cannot flow to me. I remind myself of this often and feel good when I let go of things that are no longer needed or serving me.

Blessings and love,

Fran~Mysti

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Hello dear ones. I can hardly believe it has been almost a year, in just a couple of weeks, since I posted here! Life hasn’t just been busy, it has been changing like the waves of the ocean, going up and down, fast and slow, swirling me around in many directions. Sometimes we have to take time to figure out our priorities and do what is best for us. For me, traveling and dealing with doctors takes a lot of time and energy. I am not one to take what doctors say as the only way or option, and I have to remind them I have a brain and I know my body more than anyone. Yes, yes, of course doctors know a lot and I admire them, but when they have me going in circles trying to convince me of something I know is not so, then I have to stand up for myself and tell them the way I feel. There is a way to handle ordeals like this and while doing so, I have to keep up my strength and keep moving foward.

With this being said, I will get right to it. I cannot promise my blog will be filled to the brim every month, because I do have other things on my plate, but I have words to write, stories to share and lessons to convey and teach. My mind is not controlled so much now by pain medications or overfilled with appointments these days, even though my body is still healing and still needs more TLC, I have to write. I have to get all of “this” out of my head and heart and share it!

Thank you for being here and I pray you will share my blog and new pages, links and information with others if you feel led to share.

I think the picture I shared today is appropriate. It reminds me of healing and me. *smile*

Blessings and light, Fran~Mysti

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Oh my gosh, I can hardly believe I haven’t posted here but twice this year! Well, my dear ones, 2015 has been an interesting year and with just two and a half months to go! It’s already October!

This year has been a full year of growth, realizations, changes, health challenges, tossing out and simplifying life, and so much more in between. I’m not sure where to begin, but after the death of my Dad last year, life certainly changed for everyone in my family. I’m one of five children and our Mom needed us all more than ever at this time. She’s a strong woman, but each birthday, holiday and conversation was filled with memories and I felt life was moving so fast all around me, I needed some time to “grieve” in my own way. I use the term “grieve” carefully because while I miss my Dad, learning has been elevated to a different level since his passing, in so many ways. Life has changed, I have changed and I feel blessed.

My health has been a pain, literally, for me for a long time. The last few years I’ve slowly lost some of my mobility and gained a lot of pain all over, just about every inch of my body. Being able to get up, get dressed, possibly go to pool therapy or to spend time with family or even shop for groceries, has been a challenge and since my husband also has health issues that keep him busy, life some days can be frustrating and definitely keep me taking deep breaths and asking for help from my Higher Power. I find myself talking to my Dad and my “helpers,” which include angels, faeries, spirit guides, my dogs and more. I don’t have a lot of close friends that live close by or even those I can call when I just need to vent or share. Mostly it’s because I’m an introvert, wanting to write, do my own thing, be alone or rest and heal some days. I’m grateful I’m able to have a life and lifestyle to work from home and not have to drive to a job away from home every day. There are also times when I can stand up in a crowd, speak, teach and help others, being quite the people person. I guess that keeps things interesting, but sometimes it is a challenge to push myself! 2015 has been a year of reflection, learning to keep my cool, listening more than speaking, doing my best to be kind to myself and simplifying my life even more. With so many changes and challenges, I feel my body, mind, soul and spirit have all been unbalanced. I have been working and resting to bring them all back together. I can barely walk, but I keep on doing it through the pain. I wonder some nights, how I make it through the days, but I just do. I have so much pain I barely noticed my stomach and guts were not feeling right, but I figured it was from stress, fatigue, Tylenol or similar pain medicine or food I just couldn’t tolerate anymore. Finally I ended up at the Emergency Room and was told I had Diverticulitis. I was hospitalized, but not before I tried to deal with it at home for a few weeks or more. I couldn’t keep anything in my body, I lost twelve pounds in a few days and ended up not eating anymore. I became very dehydrated and ill. I am happy to say I’m finally feeling better. I have not gained the weight back and I do believe everything happens for a reason. My body seems to be finding more balance and “being empty” for a while has reset my system. I snicker at what I tell people, part of a joke I heard somewhere years ago, about how the brain thinks it controls the body and the heart thinks it controls the body, but in actuality, it is the digestive system or the “ass” that controls everything! LOL. Think about it, if our guts are out of whack, the rest of our body becomes sick and in the “end” (no pun intended) our butthole controls us, lol. Make sense? If things stop at that end, everything can become sick and unbalanced!

Oh yes, I did say simplify and my goodness, has that been interesting. We’ve had some great guys working on our house with what started out as tearing down and replacing our front porch/deck and windows in the front of the house which turned into making the upper deck into an enclosed screened porch, new lower deck with a ramp, new front windows and double french doors leading into the enclosed porch, a new front door, new closet, tearing down a wall and letting more light into our home! I am so happy how much better the energy is flowing! Much better Feng Shui! This started in July and it is still not finished, but with it turning into a much bigger job, we’ve been patient and we highly recommend, “Smith Construction,” for anyone in our area if they need home repairs or additions done in their home. Next, they are updating and repairing our sun room before winter and before adding an addition to our home… so they may be busy for a while, then you can have them! *Smile* We are very happy with their work and how much love they put into everything they do! It truly shows!

We also had a new heating and cooling system installed in our house! We have lived here fifteen years and only used the air conditioning, but used a wood stove to heat each winter. Finally, we have a choice! It will be nice to use central heat but also use the wood stove, which I love so much and appreciate when the electricity goes out. To me, there is nothing quite like the beauty of a fire and the warmth on a cold winters night!

With the title of this blog post being, “Change, Challenges and Simplicity,” I have told you some of the changes, the challenges and the simplicity part is the inner peace through all situations and how much I’ve grown through it all! I feel blessed and I am grateful as I look back on the lessons learned and for what’s to come. I know I can make it through anything that comes my way, because I am never alone, I trust and I draw strength from my Higher Power and the Universe!

~Happy Autumn everyone~

Love, light, peace and joy, Mysti~

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.*

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Okay, so I know I missed posting anything for the holidays or in January, but I can remember sitting here and telling myself I just needed to do nothing or as little as possible. For me, when I say that, usually what happens is all sorts of things start popping up to be done, but this time, thank heavens, life slowed down. I really needed that, especially since the few months before, I got hit pretty hard with all sorts of things that kept me busy, and they were not of my choosing! Oh you know, like a tooth acting up, an old crown actually, that decided it was time to come off and need more work than before. Doctors appointments and unexpected things that come up we have to take care of. Once the holidays were over, I decided to take things much slower; my choice.

I feel taking a mini sabbatical has been good. I’ve been able to stay up late, sleep later, go through “stuff” at home and organize. We’ve had people come in and do some small home repairs, which always feels good, and getting rid of old mail, clutter, reviving the energy throughout our home! I still have days when I don’t do much, sitting and just resting, due to Fibromyalgia, Arthritis and other overlapping health issues. Regardless, I always try to do something, even if it’s getting dressed, washing a load of clothes and feeding the dogs! I don’t really like how everything on television and online in January is about losing weight, getting healthier, exercise equipment, blah, blah, blah, so I ignore it usually, but, it does remind me, just as I change the calendar, to make changes I may have gotten sluggish about during Fall and the Holidays. Winter is thickly upon us in Virginia in January and February which has slowed me down even more this year with my left knee, ankle, shoulder and neck giving me so much pain and stiffness. My doctors are not in agreement with what to do about my knees, so I am doing the best I can, meditating and doing what I can to heal, my own way!

Here it is February already and with snow, comes my Birthday. I had a nice Birthday weekend, because my day landed on Friday the 13th! I’m not superstitious, so it’s all good. My husband, son and a friend of his cooked for me and we enjoyed good food, good wine, good conversation and laughed a lot! It was a nice Birthday and I feel very blessed. I usually don’t even leave home anymore to celebrate due to Valentine’s day or icy, snowy weather. I was happy I ventured out on a sub-zero temperature night to be with family and friends. I noticed the stars shining so bright when we walked out to leave and saw several constellations vividly. The thought that went through my mind was, “My blessings are equal to the stars in the sky tonight!”

Thank you for being here with me. I look forward to your comments and meeting you. May this year be filled with even more positive energy, blessings, love and light.

Love, peace and joy, Mysti-Fran~

*The Story of why I sign Mysti-Fran or Fran-Mysti or sometimes Mystiblu:* I’ve been on the internet for a long time. Back then, people were urged to use an “alias” so people wouldn’t know who they were. I chose the name, “Mistyblue,” for the love of my Samoyed dog that looked like a white wolf! As I learned and found my path, I was Spiritually advised to change my name online and in my ventures to “Mystiblu,” which has even more meaning for me, my work and path.

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December 21-28~ Winter Solstice &  The New Year~

I can hardly believe it’s already December, (and this post took me seven days to write) much less Winter Solstice! Christmas is in a few days and although most of the important things are finished, I can feel myself wanting more sleep and time alone to think and just be myself.

I did not write here in August or November, and I beat myself up a little, telling myself I should have made time. Honestly, the last few months, I have had to pick and choose what’s more important; my health, pleasing others, spending time online, or being with my family and getting quality rest! My health has been a constant issue in 2014.

My health has actually kept me from doing so many things during the year that would have been fun, interesting, exciting and educational. I have been working very hard to get healthier; going to physical therapy, water therapy, being diligent and on time to many doctor’s appointments, handling the health things that have popped up and demanded my attention even when I thought I couldn’t do anymore, walk another step, see another doctor; I persevered. We are much stronger than we think we are!

When I hear people saying they hope 2015 will be better than 2014, I think to myself, how can I create a better year than the last? When I have quiet time, I think a lot. I have a gift, or perhaps some would call it a curse. I see visions in my head when I think or remember. In color pictures, vivid, and sometimes like seeing a movie. I also have visions of things to come, I call them glimpses, and hints of things I need to pay attention to. With so much happening around me and inside of me, I have missed some things, but happily, I’m often given another chance!

One thing I could not have had another chance at, was the passing of my Dad this year, in August. I knew in my heart it would be soon, but I did not know how soon or how fast this would happen. I feel very blessed to have had time to make my peace with him years ago and let go of past hurts and issues. He made a point to say, I’m sorry, some of what you’re going through is my fault and I love you. I was able to say I love you easier, as he got older, whether he said it back or not, it did not matter, because I knew he loved me. Sometimes we think “words” will make us feel better, but they are not always necessary when others are not good at sharing them or when feelings are shared instead of spoken. I am so grateful I was with him when he took his last breath on this earth. He was not able to speak; he wouldn’t have needed to because we all felt so much love and I know he felt it too.

What is really important to you? Have you learned to let go of things that don’t matter or things you can do without or that really are not important anymore? Have you forgiven others and forgiven yourself? As I’ve gotten older, I can see things in my life that no one else really cared about but me, and that I really can do things differently and simplify. There is a time to do more because we want to help others and go that extra mile. Then there are times to allow others to do things; maybe things we used to do and we can now pass the torch or delegate to let someone else learn, so we can do less. I have learned so much in 2014, so many lessons, and I made a giant leap of growth and listening to my inner self rather than everyone else. The world needs more compassion, love, understanding, caring, peace, kindness and light. Be the light to someone when they need it, but learn to do what feels good to your soul and what you know is right. Pay attention to your gut/inner feelings and go with them. Don’t be in a hurry, be still and allow information to come to you instead of jumping too fast and making a mistake. The world is in a hurry. Everyone wants to move fast and get things done, but it can be done with peace and wisdom and not in a hurried rush, causing anxiety and stress. Take time to let life flow like a river and find peace and beauty in everything.

Yes, this has been a very full year. I’ve learned more than I ever could have imagined. I’ve dealt with pain in my body and in my heart, but I never gave up; I kept moving forward. I’ve learned even more about being kind and knowing when to be tough, with love, and to allow doors to open and close and not get upset because I didn’t jump when others thought I should. I am closer to my soul than ever before, as in, knowing even more who I am and what I’m here to do. I may not get things done in everyone else’s timing, but that’s ok, I’m still getting things done and that’s what truly matters.

I wish you peace, prosperity and love for the New Year! Be true to your own heart and create lots of wonderful moments in 2015!!

Peace, joy and light, Fran Mystiblu Hafey~

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A Moment with Mysti~ January 26, 2014

I’m a home-body. I like being home. I tell myself often, that’s ok. Everyone has a purpose and not all of us were meant to travel all over the world with our messages or be in front of huge crowds. Now and then, I wonder why I am the way I am. I don’t single out my imperfections and name them. I take the whole package and know everything is connected. Through pain and joy, I’ve learned so much and I love to learn and welcome it. I also know life isn’t always smooth sailing, we will have ups and downs, but when we’re positive, help others, give unselfishly and be the light we’re here to be, we will find peace. Striving to be love is how we invite love and peace into our lives. 

Today I baked cranberry orange pecan bread while taking pictures of deer just past our backyard fence. I enjoyed spending the day with some of the guys in my life, my husband, son and grandson and of course our dogs and birds. I did some laundry, computer work and hey, the cold temperatures outside don’t bother me as long as I’m home. *smile*

Peace and love, Fran~Mysti

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I grew up in the country near a small town where we went to church, did our grocery shopping and every year we went Trick or Treating. We never bought our costumes; we merely went up to the attic and went through clothes my Mother had saved for years and years, along with a few masks, wigs and makeup. We would put our costumes together with the help of Mom, who was also a wonderful seamstress. We would go to our church Halloween parties, where they had haunted houses, goodies to eat, a contest for different ages and the adults dressed up just to be mysterious and have fun! I had my picture in the local newspaper one year for winning with my witch outfit, which was all authentic except for the mask! For Trick or Treat, we’d go to sections of town where we knew folks and many times I would hear how cute and sweet we were and oh my, how much we’d grown since they saw us last. Most were church friends and Mom felt safer driving places she knew well.

I learned a lot about values and traditions from my Mom and the energy and creativity she put into helping us figure out our costumes and put them together. I appreciated that and kept the tradition when my children were old enough for Trick or Treats, never buying costumes but finding things around the house, maybe buying a prop or something extra we needed from time to time, but mostly everything was homemade. We had fun, no matter where we lived, but for many years we would go back to my old Trick or Treating stomping grounds in the little town I grew up in. I knew everyone in town practically in the areas I went myself as a child. We would go as a family and sometimes we, the adults, dressed up too. I always loved this time of year with the fun, the mystery, the changes of the season and how it led to even more holidays!

Autumn and Halloween have always felt very magical and mysterious to me, so it’s always been my favorite time of year, even before I learned more of its significance and importance to me.

Now, I hold many of my own traditions; decorating the front door and porch and inside the house too. I don’t have any little ones, but my grown children take their children Trick or Treating now, a few are already too old and have told me they miss the fun of going out on Halloween night, Trick or Treating. There is no age limit on dressing up and going out, having fun and giving the treats to the little ones. Halloween is a night to be a kid at heart! My beliefs are mixed, keeping some from the past and learning of those I love and believe in now too. I keep what feels good and right to me and let go of the rest.

Many go to parties, but we usually stay home. I love the Halloween shows on television, like The Great Pumpkin and Hocus Pocus, then I steal away to have some alone time. I like to sit outside and feel the wind and talk to the Ancient Elders, Mother Earth, the wind, the moon and listen and watch for those that have passed on into another realm that come to visit us on All Hallow’s Eve, Samhain, Halloween. This night is the best time to reach out and connect to loved ones that have passed on and feel peace. The veil is already thin, but on this night, it’s at its thinnest. I leave an empty place setting and harvest foods at the table as a gift for those who pass through my home and continue on their way.

Since becoming older, I’ve learned much more about this night. I believe this is the end of the old year for the Celts, the New Year,  the last harvest and the beginning of winter; a tradition I believe in. Now, the days become shorter and the nights longer; symbolizing a time of darkness and rest. This is the  time of harvest blessings and letting go of the things that are not prosperous in our lives or that which is not positive. I write out a list and sit outside, speaking to the wind, lighting candles and a fire in our outdoor fireplace. I always ask the wind to leave my candles be, not to blow them out and they never do. I also have a nice heavy cauldron I use to burn my list in at the stroke of midnight. I speak to those I love that are far away, my guides and all my helpers. I’ve done this for many years. I love how things feel the next morning on November first; All Saints Day or the Day of the Dead. The energy feels fresh and clean, and I always say a prayer for those that have passed and saying thank you for yet another good Halloween-Samhain and look forward to Yule and the New Year.

Wishing you a wonderful, fun, safe Halloween-Samhain, filled with magic, mystery and blessings!! Remember to keep the home and hearth fires burning!!

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