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What I Learned from Clutter

Ray Through Lush Forest PlantsBy Fran Hafey/Mysti

I am shocked how much we had accumulated over the years. Together thirty-five years, moved numerous times and some of our children have come back to live with us, bringing and leaving some of their own “stuff.” We were running out of room! Bad health and other unforeseen circumstances had helped with the overabundance of clutter in our home! I know now, clutter and health issues can be an ongoing cycle and we can break it! For years I had shuffled boxes from one area of our home to another or even storage facilities, sheds, pods, basements and attics, because we just didn’t have the room in our small, oddly built home with no closets. Just as I got rid of some, more would show up, one way or another. I began packing up my personal collections and special sentimental belongings hoping we would move, one day.

I long for the day when I can display more things I love, that represent who I am or what I am compassionate about. We had decided to move after being here for fifteen years. In order to sell, we needed to make some repairs. By the time we got an estimate on the repairs, it was disheartening so we decided to stay and do what we could. We had a screened porch added where the deck had been, a new deck and took out a wall to put in new windows, doors and a big closet. We put in new windows in the sunroom and had a new heating and cooling system put in. Things did get better, but then a couple of years later I knew I needed more space and more organization. I had to take joy in the small things and the changes in our home had helped, but I found myself right back in the clutter a few years after my Dad passed away. For the first couple of years, Mom got rid of a few things. Then she decided it was time to sell the homestead out in the country that had been our home for fifty-five years! It was the only home I had ever known as a kid. I felt very blessed to have lived there and call it home.

Mom wanted to sell and move, and it all needed to happen pretty fast. Not because she was ninety years old, but because she had found the perfect “new” home in town a few miles away. Once that happened, she wanted to go and fast! First came the yard sales and her giving things away. Then came cleaning out the basement, attic, barns and more! Then there was more giving away, the second round. My four siblings and I took many carloads and truckloads of stuff home! I wasn’t too shocked, after all, they’d been there for over fifty years! We had to laugh at some of the odd things we brought home, as we cried, saying good-bye to a place we loved; such bittersweet memories.

Time flew and Mom put a contract on her new home and the old place sold fairly fast. We were so happy for Mom, and the new place is perfect. I smile as I remember her saying, “Well now I have to live to be One Hundred, because I love my new place so much!” That’s when I knew she had peace with my Dad passing, letting go of so many things she didn’t really want to get rid of, moving to a new home and now, living her life.

As for  me and my clutter? Well, I brought home tons of stuff from my Mom’s old place and I’ve sat going through it and deciding what to do with it all. So many memories in those boxes and storage containers. I decided I was going to make room for some of them, where I can see them every day. I’ve tossed out, given away and sold some of my stuff just to make room to see the things that really matter to me and I’ve learned some valuable lessons about clutter. We really don’t need so much all around us to be happy, but as humans some of us tend to save stuff and tuck little things away that are special. We like to collect. Now and then, we just need to go through things and sort them out, making sure to keep just the really special ones and pass them on to those that will love them as we have. Oh, I don’t need tons of clothes or too many books. I’m giving away some clothes, coffee mugs and dishes next week, we have too many. But, I can never have too many memories and things around me that make me smile and remember how blessed I am. I just have to remember this life is not forever and we can cherish something and value it for the love that’s in it, but we cannot take it with us. I’ve witnessed my Dad dying, my Mom letting go of him in the flesh, her letting go of the stuff that had so many love memories in them and keeping just what she needed to feel that love all around her. She also has some great kids, Grandkids and GreatGrandkids to love and remind her every day.

I am so grateful for all the lessons clutter has taught me and watching how to get rid of clutter once and for all. Clutter can also be cluttered thoughts and holding onto too much clutter in our minds and hearts. I didn’t say I’ve gotten rid of all of my clutter, yet, but it’s a work in progress. Part of the clutter is my business, which I run from home, but I believe our new home, the one day new home we are working towards, will have everything I need for my home and business!

I work at getting more organized often and I always take time to remind myself, “We have enough, we have all we need and as I get rid of clutter, the positive energy can flow more freely, bringing me and my family all we need.” If I hang onto everything, if I live in a mindset of lack, then other better and greater things cannot flow to me. I remind myself of this often and feel good when I let go of things that are no longer needed or serving me.

Blessings and love,

Fran~Mysti

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WinterTeaBook

Okay, so I know I missed posting anything for the holidays or in January, but I can remember sitting here and telling myself I just needed to do nothing or as little as possible. For me, when I say that, usually what happens is all sorts of things start popping up to be done, but this time, thank heavens, life slowed down. I really needed that, especially since the few months before, I got hit pretty hard with all sorts of things that kept me busy, and they were not of my choosing! Oh you know, like a tooth acting up, an old crown actually, that decided it was time to come off and need more work than before. Doctors appointments and unexpected things that come up we have to take care of. Once the holidays were over, I decided to take things much slower; my choice.

I feel taking a mini sabbatical has been good. I’ve been able to stay up late, sleep later, go through “stuff” at home and organize. We’ve had people come in and do some small home repairs, which always feels good, and getting rid of old mail, clutter, reviving the energy throughout our home! I still have days when I don’t do much, sitting and just resting, due to Fibromyalgia, Arthritis and other overlapping health issues. Regardless, I always try to do something, even if it’s getting dressed, washing a load of clothes and feeding the dogs! I don’t really like how everything on television and online in January is about losing weight, getting healthier, exercise equipment, blah, blah, blah, so I ignore it usually, but, it does remind me, just as I change the calendar, to make changes I may have gotten sluggish about during Fall and the Holidays. Winter is thickly upon us in Virginia in January and February which has slowed me down even more this year with my left knee, ankle, shoulder and neck giving me so much pain and stiffness. My doctors are not in agreement with what to do about my knees, so I am doing the best I can, meditating and doing what I can to heal, my own way!

Here it is February already and with snow, comes my Birthday. I had a nice Birthday weekend, because my day landed on Friday the 13th! I’m not superstitious, so it’s all good. My husband, son and a friend of his cooked for me and we enjoyed good food, good wine, good conversation and laughed a lot! It was a nice Birthday and I feel very blessed. I usually don’t even leave home anymore to celebrate due to Valentine’s day or icy, snowy weather. I was happy I ventured out on a sub-zero temperature night to be with family and friends. I noticed the stars shining so bright when we walked out to leave and saw several constellations vividly. The thought that went through my mind was, “My blessings are equal to the stars in the sky tonight!”

Thank you for being here with me. I look forward to your comments and meeting you. May this year be filled with even more positive energy, blessings, love and light.

Love, peace and joy, Mysti-Fran~

*The Story of why I sign Mysti-Fran or Fran-Mysti or sometimes Mystiblu:* I’ve been on the internet for a long time. Back then, people were urged to use an “alias” so people wouldn’t know who they were. I chose the name, “Mistyblue,” for the love of my Samoyed dog that looked like a white wolf! As I learned and found my path, I was Spiritually advised to change my name online and in my ventures to “Mystiblu,” which has even more meaning for me, my work and path.

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.* Thank you.
If my messages are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too at https://mystiblu.wordpress.com/  or http://Mystickblue.com or at Facebook or Twitter. If you share this message, please keep my copyright with it or share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.
Copyright © Mystickblue LoveNotes~A Moment with Mysti~SoulConnections-Fran Hafey-Mystiblu~2015-All Rights Reserved.

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PeaceJoy2015
December 21-28~ Winter Solstice &  The New Year~

I can hardly believe it’s already December, (and this post took me seven days to write) much less Winter Solstice! Christmas is in a few days and although most of the important things are finished, I can feel myself wanting more sleep and time alone to think and just be myself.

I did not write here in August or November, and I beat myself up a little, telling myself I should have made time. Honestly, the last few months, I have had to pick and choose what’s more important; my health, pleasing others, spending time online, or being with my family and getting quality rest! My health has been a constant issue in 2014.

My health has actually kept me from doing so many things during the year that would have been fun, interesting, exciting and educational. I have been working very hard to get healthier; going to physical therapy, water therapy, being diligent and on time to many doctor’s appointments, handling the health things that have popped up and demanded my attention even when I thought I couldn’t do anymore, walk another step, see another doctor; I persevered. We are much stronger than we think we are!

When I hear people saying they hope 2015 will be better than 2014, I think to myself, how can I create a better year than the last? When I have quiet time, I think a lot. I have a gift, or perhaps some would call it a curse. I see visions in my head when I think or remember. In color pictures, vivid, and sometimes like seeing a movie. I also have visions of things to come, I call them glimpses, and hints of things I need to pay attention to. With so much happening around me and inside of me, I have missed some things, but happily, I’m often given another chance!

One thing I could not have had another chance at, was the passing of my Dad this year, in August. I knew in my heart it would be soon, but I did not know how soon or how fast this would happen. I feel very blessed to have had time to make my peace with him years ago and let go of past hurts and issues. He made a point to say, I’m sorry, some of what you’re going through is my fault and I love you. I was able to say I love you easier, as he got older, whether he said it back or not, it did not matter, because I knew he loved me. Sometimes we think “words” will make us feel better, but they are not always necessary when others are not good at sharing them or when feelings are shared instead of spoken. I am so grateful I was with him when he took his last breath on this earth. He was not able to speak; he wouldn’t have needed to because we all felt so much love and I know he felt it too.

What is really important to you? Have you learned to let go of things that don’t matter or things you can do without or that really are not important anymore? Have you forgiven others and forgiven yourself? As I’ve gotten older, I can see things in my life that no one else really cared about but me, and that I really can do things differently and simplify. There is a time to do more because we want to help others and go that extra mile. Then there are times to allow others to do things; maybe things we used to do and we can now pass the torch or delegate to let someone else learn, so we can do less. I have learned so much in 2014, so many lessons, and I made a giant leap of growth and listening to my inner self rather than everyone else. The world needs more compassion, love, understanding, caring, peace, kindness and light. Be the light to someone when they need it, but learn to do what feels good to your soul and what you know is right. Pay attention to your gut/inner feelings and go with them. Don’t be in a hurry, be still and allow information to come to you instead of jumping too fast and making a mistake. The world is in a hurry. Everyone wants to move fast and get things done, but it can be done with peace and wisdom and not in a hurried rush, causing anxiety and stress. Take time to let life flow like a river and find peace and beauty in everything.

Yes, this has been a very full year. I’ve learned more than I ever could have imagined. I’ve dealt with pain in my body and in my heart, but I never gave up; I kept moving forward. I’ve learned even more about being kind and knowing when to be tough, with love, and to allow doors to open and close and not get upset because I didn’t jump when others thought I should. I am closer to my soul than ever before, as in, knowing even more who I am and what I’m here to do. I may not get things done in everyone else’s timing, but that’s ok, I’m still getting things done and that’s what truly matters.

I wish you peace, prosperity and love for the New Year! Be true to your own heart and create lots of wonderful moments in 2015!!

Peace, joy and light, Fran Mystiblu Hafey~

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind.*

If my messages are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too at “A Moment with Mysti” at https://mystiblu.wordpress.com/ If you share this message, please keep my copyright with it or share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.

Copyright©Mystickblue~A Moment with Mysti~Fran Hafey~Mystiblu~2014-All Rights Reserved.

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DadsLastSunsetAug27-2014

“Dad’s Last Sunset,” by Fran Mysti Hafey-Copyright2014

By Fran Hafey

I learned some time ago to pay attention to my dreams, especially the ones that stood out or seemed to have a message for me. These are usually dreams I could remember easily or played out more than once. Each one has taught me valuable lessons.

Three months ago I had a powerful dream about snakes. I’ve had snake dreams before and I knew snake medicine can and usually does foretell of big change.

Some dreams are like puzzles, needing to have the pieces or information put together as we remember them or as other signs and pieces come to us, either in more dreams or in messages when we’re awake.

Snake not only came to me in my dreams, but I also received a visit from one in my physical home. I shared this in my June blog entry here called, “Snake Energy.”  (I quote: For now, I know I’m going through some big transformations inside and out. Perhaps I’m shedding my old skin and getting a newer, tougher one.)

Snake told me to expect very big changes in my life, ones that would cause huge ripples of changes in my own life and others around me. I thought it may have meant about my health or my husband’s health, or both. I didn’t know then, just how big the changes would be and that they had already begun. So many things are stirring and happening in our lives, behind the scenes, even before we’re aware of them.  I think my snake visitor was also trying to tell me just how fast things would happen because he came so soon after my dream. How I reacted to the snake being in my house and that I was alone when he came, are also clues to how life would unfold for me in my near future.

Just two months later and being very mindful of life events occurring around me, my family and I became very concerned about my Earthly Father, my Dad. He became weaker, losing a lot of weight and forgetting people in our family; faces and names. He began asking about loved ones that had already passed on and his energy shifted, being in two realities or realms, at the same time. Sometimes he was with us and other times he was with those on the other side. In May, we had a family gathering, in his honor, to basically say good-bye to the man we once knew. My Mom knew he was fading, maybe she already knew he was dying; she just didn’t know he would be leaving us in this reality so soon.

Dad was admitted into the hospital August twentieth with complications from illnesses he’d had for years, plus pneumonia and a severe bladder infection. The doctors ran tests and more tests and found he had cancer throughout his whole body and bones. Within just a few days Dad was brought home, where he wanted to be. We weren’t sure how long he had, but I suppose he decided he had had enough pain in that body of his and he shifted once more to crossover sooner. Hospice told us they felt he had days to hours. This news certainly got our attention fast, and it brought our world’s all a bit closer and into perspective for the sake of our Dad, who was leaving this world soon and bringing into focus how much our Mom needed all of us to help in this process of letting go of the physical, with love.

My Dad is dying. He is in his home, surrounded by those he loves and all who love him. We share good memories, strive to keep him comfortable, as we all say our good-byes. It won’t be long; his journey is almost done here, as we begin our new one.

As I finish writing, I have been called to my childhood home to be with my immediate family. When I arrived, everyone was busy with something, but someone was always with my Dad. He was not moving anymore, struggling to breathe as his body was letting go. We all gathered around him, showing our love for him and each other. We touched, we cried, we smiled and laughed. The love there in our home was  and is, incredible. It was this love that helped my Dad leave this life so peacefully and gently. As he took his last breath, we all were touching him and each other; My Mom never taking her eyes off of him. It was one of the most beautiful experiences I’ve ever had; the most loving moment of my life. We comforted each other, crying but feeling so blessed. We stayed there a long time, together, one in love and now helping our Mother whose husband of sixty six years, sixty seven in less than a month, was now gone from his body, but his spirit never dying, but living within all of us forever.

While we stood holding hands and touching Dad, suddenly the electricity flickered and went out! It was afternoon so we still had light. When the Hospice person arrived, she saw we had no electricity. We told her what happened and she explained how she had seen something like this before and it’s because of his energy and our own, connecting and creating a surge as we all touched Dad and each other to complete the circle of love at his time of passing.

More family members came to say good-bye and comfort my Mom. Some of my family urged my Mom to go to another room as they took my Dad out of the house, for one last time. I stayed for a while, but then something outside caught my eye; the beautiful sunset. My Dad’s last sunset on his family homestead on the hill in Virginia. I started taking pictures; I felt compelled to as I said out loud, “Dad’s last sunset,” and I smiled and felt peace all around me.

I know this was not a good day for my Mom or my family, and my Mom would need our love and help more than ever to get through this. She has strength from God, her family and friends, her church and she talks to Dad a lot and feels comfort in it. In time, I do feel she will realize how beautiful  Dad’s passing was and she will know it was such a blessing, one that many are not given.

A long time ago I worked in a hospital helping babies come into this world. I took their pictures and saw the smiles and love of parents and family. I’ve worked in nursing homes and birthing rooms. I’ve seen birth and I’ve seen death. My Dad’s funeral was my first, and it was beautiful. A true “Celebration of Life.” He is missed, but we all smile and remember his words he uttered to us many times in his gruff voice; rough and tough, but with love, he would say as we would part, “Drive fast kid,” which was his great sense of humor and his way of saying, “I love you.” Now he flies fast with the angels.~

Blessings and love, Fran-Mysti-September 29, 2014

*Opinions and thoughts of the Author are not necessarily the opinion and thoughts of the reader. Please read with an open mind. Thank you.*

If my messages are helpful or reach out to you, please feel free to reach out to me too! If you share this message, please keep my copyright with it and share it exactly how you see it. Thank you.

Copyright © Mystickblue-Fran Hafey-Mystiblu2014-All Rights Reserved.

DadsRosesJoshAug2014

Dad’s Roses and Candy Cigar. CopyrightFranMystiHafey2014

 

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