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What I Learned from Clutter

Ray Through Lush Forest PlantsBy Fran Hafey/Mysti

I am shocked how much we had accumulated over the years. Together thirty-five years, moved numerous times and some of our children have come back to live with us, bringing and leaving some of their own “stuff.” We were running out of room! Bad health and other unforeseen circumstances had helped with the overabundance of clutter in our home! I know now, clutter and health issues can be an ongoing cycle and we can break it! For years I had shuffled boxes from one area of our home to another or even storage facilities, sheds, pods, basements and attics, because we just didn’t have the room in our small, oddly built home with no closets. Just as I got rid of some, more would show up, one way or another. I began packing up my personal collections and special sentimental belongings hoping we would move, one day.

I long for the day when I can display more things I love, that represent who I am or what I am compassionate about. We had decided to move after being here for fifteen years. In order to sell, we needed to make some repairs. By the time we got an estimate on the repairs, it was disheartening so we decided to stay and do what we could. We had a screened porch added where the deck had been, a new deck and took out a wall to put in new windows, doors and a big closet. We put in new windows in the sunroom and had a new heating and cooling system put in. Things did get better, but then a couple of years later I knew I needed more space and more organization. I had to take joy in the small things and the changes in our home had helped, but I found myself right back in the clutter a few years after my Dad passed away. For the first couple of years, Mom got rid of a few things. Then she decided it was time to sell the homestead out in the country that had been our home for fifty-five years! It was the only home I had ever known as a kid. I felt very blessed to have lived there and call it home.

Mom wanted to sell and move, and it all needed to happen pretty fast. Not because she was ninety years old, but because she had found the perfect “new” home in town a few miles away. Once that happened, she wanted to go and fast! First came the yard sales and her giving things away. Then came cleaning out the basement, attic, barns and more! Then there was more giving away, the second round. My four siblings and I took many carloads and truckloads of stuff home! I wasn’t too shocked, after all, they’d been there for over fifty years! We had to laugh at some of the odd things we brought home, as we cried, saying good-bye to a place we loved; such bittersweet memories.

Time flew and Mom put a contract on her new home and the old place sold fairly fast. We were so happy for Mom, and the new place is perfect. I smile as I remember her saying, “Well now I have to live to be One Hundred, because I love my new place so much!” That’s when I knew she had peace with my Dad passing, letting go of so many things she didn’t really want to get rid of, moving to a new home and now, living her life.

As for  me and my clutter? Well, I brought home tons of stuff from my Mom’s old place and I’ve sat going through it and deciding what to do with it all. So many memories in those boxes and storage containers. I decided I was going to make room for some of them, where I can see them every day. I’ve tossed out, given away and sold some of my stuff just to make room to see the things that really matter to me and I’ve learned some valuable lessons about clutter. We really don’t need so much all around us to be happy, but as humans some of us tend to save stuff and tuck little things away that are special. We like to collect. Now and then, we just need to go through things and sort them out, making sure to keep just the really special ones and pass them on to those that will love them as we have. Oh, I don’t need tons of clothes or too many books. I’m giving away some clothes, coffee mugs and dishes next week, we have too many. But, I can never have too many memories and things around me that make me smile and remember how blessed I am. I just have to remember this life is not forever and we can cherish something and value it for the love that’s in it, but we cannot take it with us. I’ve witnessed my Dad dying, my Mom letting go of him in the flesh, her letting go of the stuff that had so many love memories in them and keeping just what she needed to feel that love all around her. She also has some great kids, Grandkids and GreatGrandkids to love and remind her every day.

I am so grateful for all the lessons clutter has taught me and watching how to get rid of clutter once and for all. Clutter can also be cluttered thoughts and holding onto too much clutter in our minds and hearts. I didn’t say I’ve gotten rid of all of my clutter, yet, but it’s a work in progress. Part of the clutter is my business, which I run from home, but I believe our new home, the one day new home we are working towards, will have everything I need for my home and business!

I work at getting more organized often and I always take time to remind myself, “We have enough, we have all we need and as I get rid of clutter, the positive energy can flow more freely, bringing me and my family all we need.” If I hang onto everything, if I live in a mindset of lack, then other better and greater things cannot flow to me. I remind myself of this often and feel good when I let go of things that are no longer needed or serving me.

Blessings and love,

Fran~Mysti

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