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What I Learned from Clutter

Ray Through Lush Forest PlantsBy Fran Hafey/Mysti

I am shocked how much we had accumulated over the years. Together thirty-five years, moved numerous times and some of our children have come back to live with us, bringing and leaving some of their own “stuff.” We were running out of room! Bad health and other unforeseen circumstances had helped with the overabundance of clutter in our home! I know now, clutter and health issues can be an ongoing cycle and we can break it! For years I had shuffled boxes from one area of our home to another or even storage facilities, sheds, pods, basements and attics, because we just didn’t have the room in our small, oddly built home with no closets. Just as I got rid of some, more would show up, one way or another. I began packing up my personal collections and special sentimental belongings hoping we would move, one day.

I long for the day when I can display more things I love, that represent who I am or what I am compassionate about. We had decided to move after being here for fifteen years. In order to sell, we needed to make some repairs. By the time we got an estimate on the repairs, it was disheartening so we decided to stay and do what we could. We had a screened porch added where the deck had been, a new deck and took out a wall to put in new windows, doors and a big closet. We put in new windows in the sunroom and had a new heating and cooling system put in. Things did get better, but then a couple of years later I knew I needed more space and more organization. I had to take joy in the small things and the changes in our home had helped, but I found myself right back in the clutter a few years after my Dad passed away. For the first couple of years, Mom got rid of a few things. Then she decided it was time to sell the homestead out in the country that had been our home for fifty-five years! It was the only home I had ever known as a kid. I felt very blessed to have lived there and call it home.

Mom wanted to sell and move, and it all needed to happen pretty fast. Not because she was ninety years old, but because she had found the perfect “new” home in town a few miles away. Once that happened, she wanted to go and fast! First came the yard sales and her giving things away. Then came cleaning out the basement, attic, barns and more! Then there was more giving away, the second round. My four siblings and I took many carloads and truckloads of stuff home! I wasn’t too shocked, after all, they’d been there for over fifty years! We had to laugh at some of the odd things we brought home, as we cried, saying good-bye to a place we loved; such bittersweet memories.

Time flew and Mom put a contract on her new home and the old place sold fairly fast. We were so happy for Mom, and the new place is perfect. I smile as I remember her saying, “Well now I have to live to be One Hundred, because I love my new place so much!” That’s when I knew she had peace with my Dad passing, letting go of so many things she didn’t really want to get rid of, moving to a new home and now, living her life.

As for  me and my clutter? Well, I brought home tons of stuff from my Mom’s old place and I’ve sat going through it and deciding what to do with it all. So many memories in those boxes and storage containers. I decided I was going to make room for some of them, where I can see them every day. I’ve tossed out, given away and sold some of my stuff just to make room to see the things that really matter to me and I’ve learned some valuable lessons about clutter. We really don’t need so much all around us to be happy, but as humans some of us tend to save stuff and tuck little things away that are special. We like to collect. Now and then, we just need to go through things and sort them out, making sure to keep just the really special ones and pass them on to those that will love them as we have. Oh, I don’t need tons of clothes or too many books. I’m giving away some clothes, coffee mugs and dishes next week, we have too many. But, I can never have too many memories and things around me that make me smile and remember how blessed I am. I just have to remember this life is not forever and we can cherish something and value it for the love that’s in it, but we cannot take it with us. I’ve witnessed my Dad dying, my Mom letting go of him in the flesh, her letting go of the stuff that had so many love memories in them and keeping just what she needed to feel that love all around her. She also has some great kids, Grandkids and GreatGrandkids to love and remind her every day.

I am so grateful for all the lessons clutter has taught me and watching how to get rid of clutter once and for all. Clutter can also be cluttered thoughts and holding onto too much clutter in our minds and hearts. I didn’t say I’ve gotten rid of all of my clutter, yet, but it’s a work in progress. Part of the clutter is my business, which I run from home, but I believe our new home, the one day new home we are working towards, will have everything I need for my home and business!

I work at getting more organized often and I always take time to remind myself, “We have enough, we have all we need and as I get rid of clutter, the positive energy can flow more freely, bringing me and my family all we need.” If I hang onto everything, if I live in a mindset of lack, then other better and greater things cannot flow to me. I remind myself of this often and feel good when I let go of things that are no longer needed or serving me.

Blessings and love,

Fran~Mysti

Cup with hot tea near computerBy Fran Mysti Hafey

Sometimes there are situations that require no words. A look, a knowing, an understanding between two beings or when a soul recognizes another soul.  When a smile and a hug show our happiness. Or perhaps when someone’s grief is so deep there are no words to comfort; just being there can be enough, a silent, loving energy that surrounds them with love and healing.

Words can be healing or hurtful. They can help or destroy. Choosing our words carefully can make a big difference.

One of the things I did to help myself heal is writing. I was never very good at journaling or writing in a diary every day, but about twenty years ago I began writing more seriously. I wrote poetry and short stories when I was younger; it helped me deal with some tough situations. But much later, I needed to write and share my stories to help others. I dedicated more time to writing and it felt good. It helped me to remember memories, good and bad, as they came to the surface. I always ended each story with a positive note that felt good. Suddenly, I had people sending me emails and leaving comments at my website and groups, telling me how my stories helped them. It felt good to know my sharing was helping others and also helping me to heal inside too!

I’ve been upset for a while that I haven’t been writing every day or even every month! When I came to my blog to make some updates, I noticed I hadn’t posted here in a year! I was shocked and sad too. I feel so much in me that wants to come out onto paper or online! I take notes or jot down ideas I have so I can come back to them later. Then something else comes up or I’m in pain, need to rest or just plain busy! I desire to write more again, so this post is my promise to myself and to others, that I will write more! I hope to write at least once a month! It’s important for me to write, it is part of me and what I am here to do, and, it’s healing.

Love, light, joy and blessings,

Fran~

P.S. Just to let you know, I typed this whole page while wearing a thumb and wrist brace on! It took me forever, but I wanted to post it before midnight, Eastern time, so it would be posted in January! I then remembered, it’s also the Full BLUE Moon and a Total Lunar Eclipse!! What a great time to reaffirm to myself to write and heal more! (((Very Big Smile!!)))

Smarter Not Harder

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Smarter Not Harder

By Fran Mysti Hafey

Sometimes we have to let go of things, ideas or people. Maybe we need to change our way of thinking, how we do things or just change things all together. Sometimes we need a new beginning!

I used to over complicate things. As I am getting older, I am learning some details do not matter and it is easier for us when we let some things go. In my life, I have been wanting simplicity, less stress and less clutter. I began by letting go of small things; one step at a time. No one ever said we had to go cold turkey! I let go of big reactions to little drama and things that didn’t matter anymore. I put my energy into more important things like family, hobbies I enjoy and living life smarter, not harder.

For instance, learning to meditate or find what works best for us, can take time. In a busy world we need to be gentle with ourselves by asking for help, reading books, looking up information online, doing things we love and asking for guidance in a dream or just taking a walk and asking our guides, angels or helpers for help and advice. Sometimes we need to take a break, take a breath, sip on some tea, or coffee, smile… and just be.

Some people are used to the fast paced crazy world or a hectic schedule, while some may have a boring routine that needs more excitement and a breath of fresh air into it. Which ever it may be, we can all learn to live smarter, not harder and when to let go and let things flow.~

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Thank you and blessings~

My Super Power-Laughter

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My Super Power-Laughter

By Fran Mysti Hafey

“Laughter is an instant vacation.”~Milton Berle

Every now and then, I may write something here that is a bit deep and dark, because we all have light and dark within us and we must strive to keep the balance.

Many people on the internet and even in my personal life, know me, but they do not really know all of me. What we choose to share with others is our choice. I am an upbeat person, but I also go through darker times when I need space and to figure things out. My super power is laughter! When my body aches, I am tired and life gets very busy, laughing always helps me. I am very blessed to have a quick wit and I not only enjoy laughing, but making others laugh too. I am also very addicted to “the movie or song” game. When I see an actor in something, I have to figure out where or what else I have seen them in! When I hear a song, I will try to figure out who it is singing it! Some people think I am obcessed, but if you look around, a lot of people do that or something similar. LOL. I am also very expressive. I laugh, cry, make faces, use my hands and body to talk and express myself and I can immitate sounds and voices. I also whistle and sing… all the time! I live to my own rhythm, music and beat!

I think “who” I am has come from being very sensitive about everything. I feel things deeply and laughter has been my way to lighten up my life for a long time. I know when to use my super-power and when it is needed most. I am very grateful I have been given this ability and I will always use it for good.

We will always have to keep the balance between light and dark in our lives, so choose to laugh as often as you can and be grateful. Laughter is a gift.~

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